Goodbye Singlehood – 10 Signs You Have Found Your Heaven-Sent!

Posted by: Dolly okoruwa November 28, 2015

So how do you really know if this relationship is right for you? Here are a few ways to find out:

1. Moral support
When your friends and family want to see you and your partner together, there is something to savor. Sometimes outside perspective is needed to see things you are too close and emotionally invested in to appreciate or view clearly. Don’t base the value of your relationship on the opinion of others, but listen to the voices you love and respect.
2. Fair fights
When a fight does break out, it’s a clean one. Your arguments work toward resolving issues and solving problems while still appreciating each other’s feelings and needs.
3. New issues
Your issues are new issues. Past problems actually get worked out and don’t come back up to bite you. Old resentments don’t get brought up in new arguments, and old dirt doesn’t get thrown around in current conversations.
4. Hard work
You’re both willing to put in the work. You jump into action without skipping a beat, and you work on an issue until it’s over. No hesitations.
5. Growing together
You and your partner are evolving together emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Growing closer is easy and a natural course of your relationship.
6. Major change
You are both naturally changing for the better because you are happier being who you are this new way. Not because he asked you to change, and certainly not to keep him. Maybe you never wanted children, and now you can’t wait to be a parent with your partner. Or maybe he always needed his space, and now being away from you feels incomplete.
7. Life partners
You don’t see yourself or your life without him. And you know he feels the same way.
8. The L-word
“Love” rolls off the tongue effortlessly. You can’t imagine not saying it; that would hurt too much. You need to say it, you want to say it and it brings you joy. And it’s the same for him.
9. Spiritual connection
There’s just something cosmic that pulls you two back together when you drift apart. It’s unexplainable. But it’s there. And it’s always for the better for both of you.
10. Love is blind
You don’t see anyone else as a potential partner, and you’re not interested in building any kind of connection with another. No one comes close to the amazing person you have. Physical attraction may pop in and surprise you, but the desire for intimacy or emotional connection doesn’t develop.
Knowing when you are right where you should be can be difficult in the midst of it. Hindsight may be 20/20, and if you’re the type that doesn’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone, keep your eyes open and see what blessings you have in your love. Let this list encourage you to keep going and keep the faith when the road gets rough and blue skies go gray. You can build a beautiful home for yourself and your family when you appreciate everything and everyone in it.

       MATTERS OF THE HEART

YOU HAVE AWFUL CHARACTER; I WILL CHANGE THAT...... IS IT Conceivable???

Before i begin let me recount to you a tale about my self, there was a young lady i meet in school her name is Linda at first she was a decent sweet adoring young lady who i want to be around with, i cherished her and regarded her as a sister i educated her things concerning my self and she let me know she was from a well off crew.

one night she went to my room in school crying i felt terrible and i attempted to figure out what the issue was she let me know that her landlord asked her to go out of her house i was irate attempting to discover the primary motivation behind why she said that so she said she was staying with two different young ladies and the landowner didn't need 3 persons to stay in a room . she began imploring me to stay two or three days in my home before she secures a convenience in view of the way she was i needed her to quit crying i approached her to move with me for the few days i never new that was the beginning of my issues. she began staying with me couple of days got to be weeks, months she began staying with me permanently convey a lot of folks to my space to dis-virgin my bed lol well i was irate yet could advise her or express it later on i discovered that she drinks and smokes imagine the way individuals will take a gander at me saying "show me your friend and i will tell you who you are" So one day she voyaged i was extremely glad to pick up that flexibility again in my home that protection you can imagine.
One day her ex flat mate went to my home to search for her so the however rung a bell to ask them what truly happened between her and the landowner then they let me know that the landlady (the landlords wife)caught her on a seat in the section outside when a fellow was engaging in sexual relations with her outside that night Jesus Christ i yelled them i recalled every one of the characters she exhibited in my place before she voyaged i was shocked somebody i called my companion having intercourse with a gentleman outside and she said it wasn't the first run through well imagine her terrible character, imagine the disfavor gee i cannot even stand her i called her immediately to come and pick her remaining stuff in my house.... Characters an essential thing in everyone's life, there are a few individuals you cannot change notwithstanding when you made a decent attempt to change them. That is why i brought adjoin this subject:

YOU HAVE Awful CHARACTER; I WILL CHANGE THAT...... IS IT Conceivable???

character is every one of the qualities and components that makes a man gathering of individuals and spots not the same as others (oxford college lexicon).

characters could be great or terrible regardless of who you are on earth, you should gangs one of these characters or both with one ruling the other.

individuals go into connections seeing the nearby characters of their accomplices with the point of evolving them. Illustration tolerating to go out with a medication someone who is addicted, with the point of transforming him or her is that conceivable?

yes!!! It is...(smiles) you can really remove a terrible character in a man and supplant it with a decent character. in doing this, there are four noteworthy things you must apply.

the force of showing your accomplice

the force of pupil in his or her part (forbearance)

the force of redundancy ( as it is said reiteration brings flawlessness)

the force of supplication to God (every negative thing bow to petition to God, it is vital)

                    MATTERS OF THE HEART

                       MISTAKE MEN MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP

Men often make a number of relationship mistakes during the crucial phase, though most men are well-meaning in their relationships.
Some of this mistakes include:

• Doing so much at the beginning to get your lady and afterwards takes another turn
• Trying too hard: this puts some women off
• Giving the women too much power
• Trying to invoke too much of control
• Believing that the good you do today will last till tomorrow
• Being over domineering/possessive/jealous
• Allowing family members or friends to dictate what happens in the relationship
• Lack of respect for a lady
• Over respect for her may be annoying
• Choosing a woman based on appearance alone
• Placing other people or things before her... sometimes cars
• Yielding to temptation from other women
• Not giving her compliment
• Talking or complaining so much abut your EX

            MATTERS OF THE HEART

           Friendship After Relationship

Ending a relationship is especially painful when you have invested a lot of time and emotional energy. Naturally the thought of never seeing or speaking to your loved one again is scary. That's why so many couples want to remain friends, and that's why so many women believe a platonic relationship is better than losing someone entirely. 
Staying friends with your ex depends on the nature of the relationship. Did you start as pals or got committed to each other shortly after meeting? how long did the relationship last? was the breakup mutual or was one party blindsided? Did betrayal occur? Did you have children?
Answering the questions above will give a clearer sense of whether or not post relationship friendship is realistic. Are you still unsure? then ask yourself the following question before agreeing to turn your ex into your friend.

1. What will the nature of your friend be? 
2. Can u truly move on? 

The best thing to do is to build whatever relationship you are in on a foundation base on Agape love. In  this kind of relationship, if at all a breakup occurs, it will be easier to move on as you would invite God who is a part of the relationship to take charge and give grace.
The issues of remaining friends with your ex after a relationship solely lies in your hands. No matter the advice you seek, it is what you want for yourself that matters. So what decision are you making?

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                  WHEN YOU SHOULD SLOW DOWN IN A RELATIONSHIP

 The word "RELATIONSHIP" does mean lot of different definition and context to different people based on the circumstances prevalent at that point in time.
According to the oxford advance learner dictionary, relationship is the way in wish people or country live together.
Ever relationship has a life span and an expiry date but must importantly when a relationship is due for expiry it is best to close the door gently because you may need to use that door some other day or time.
A relationship according to me is the physical, spiritual and emotional connectivity between two or more people with co-existence plan.
In every relationship there should be banners limits, exits entire e.t.c. which will be necessary needed in and outside the relationship.
Before you start a relationship

1. Define it reasons, possible challenges.
2. Set limits transparency and openness.
3. Set expectation-communication. 
4. Outline the difference in both parties.
5. Analyze parties temperament.
6.  seek to be patient and teachable-personal development.

An interpersonal relationship is an association between two or more people that may range in duration from brief to enduring. This association may  be based on interference, love, solidarity, regular business interaction.
Relationship is normally viewed as a connection between individuals such as a romantic or intimate relationship or a parent-child relationship. Individual can also have relationship with group of people such as the relationship between pastors and his congregation.
The natural development of a relationship follow five stages:

1. Acquaintances: becoming acquainted depends on previous relationship,physical proximity, first impression and a variety of other factors. if two people begin to like each other continue interactions may lead to the next stage but acquaintance can continue indefinitely.
2. Build -up: during this stages people begin to trust and care about each other. The need for intimacy, compatibility and such filtering agents as common background and goals will influence whither or not interaction continues.
3. Continuation: the stage follows a mutual commitment to along-term friendship, romantic relationship and marriage. It is generally a long relative stable period. Nevertheless, continued growth and development will occur during this time. Mutual trust is important for sustaining the relationship.
4.  Deterioration: not all relationships deteriorate, but those that do tend to show signs of trouble, boredom, loss of trust and betrayals may take place as the downward spiral continue, eventually ending the relationship.(alternately, the participants may find some way to resolve the problem and re-establish trust).
5.  Termination:the final stage marks the end of the relationship, either by death in the ease of a healthy relationship or by seperation